A Compilation of Lessons Learned (And Re-Learned) in 2020
November 30, 2020
There is so much value in reflecting on the lessons we’ve learned or in some cases, re-learned.
This quote sums up the latter quite perfectly:
“The universe is going to give you the exact same lesson in different versions over again until you master it. This is one of the most single important laws you can learn about the nature of reality.”
When we take the time to reflect on the year that’s been, we open the door to a greater level of awareness and clarity. We give ourselves the chance to learn from our mistakes and make decisions that better serve us instead of repeating negative patterns.
Through this reflection, we can obtain the insights and knowledge required to set boundaries that protect us, pursue goals that align with our values and build habits that improve our quality of life.
We asked a few friends of Saint Belford to share one lesson they learned (or re-learned) this year. Here’s what they had to say.
What is one lesson you’ve learned or re-learned this year?
2020 has been rough, absolutely. I haven’t met a single person who truly believes that the pandemic hasn’t impacted them in any way. The one lesson I’ve re-learned this year was to trust my gut.
I’ve had a firm belief that psychological therapy would gradually move to having more online options over time, so pivoted the business and our tech to fit with this. So we were prepped and ready-to-go when telehealth became rebated by the Aus Gov.
I’ve also learned that people are generally doing the best they can in that given moment, and to give them (and myself!!) grace.
This year has really reiterated the importance of being mindful and making the most of where I am, what I’ve got and what I’m able to do in any given moment. There have been plenty of times when I’ve longed to be back home with family and friends or wished that things could be different in some way.
This has meant that I’ve been pulled out of the moment I’m in which has added stress and anxiety. This teamed up with uncertainty isn’t a great mix so it’s been really helpful to come back to the ‘here and now’ and have an appreciation of that.
I've learned the importance of adjusting my self-care to match challenging times. Just like I need to drink more water when the weather is warm, I've found myself needing more self-care during this particularly intense year.
I'm doing extra meditations, yoga, and journaling sessions. And, I've introduced more fun into my life by reading fiction books and adding to my indoor plant collection!
I’ve learnt that it’s so much easier to practise self-care when it’s on your own terms—when you get to choose what youwantto do.. It’s a lot harder to truly listen to what your body needs when it goes against your big plans, but that’s what self-care is all about—honouring your limits.
Through this pregnancy, I’ve learnt to truly surrender to the needs of my body in a way that I’ve never done before, and this has crushed my ego on many occasions. There have been so many times when I’ve had to scrap the to-do list, cancel catch ups and just take a nap or rest on the couch.
What I want to do and what I need to do aren’t always going to be the same thing, and I need to respect my needs over my desires. I’ve realised that resisting (instead of surrendering) only leads to more suffering, both physically and mentally. I’ve learnt that I need to accept my body for what it’s capable of at the time, instead of expecting my body to function in a certain way.